In my work with kids over the last 35+ years there are certain things that have not changed. One is that kids thrive with routine and the other is that in reality you are raising adults not children. You want the end result of your child rearing efforts to be fully functioning human adults who can handle life’s challenges. You have to play the long game, thinking about what kind of adult you want your child to grow up to be.
One of the ways to develop responsibility in children is to give them meaningful tasks and chores to do around the house. Kids need to know how households are run and that it takes work and commitment from all to make living better for the whole family.
Kids should not be overwhelmed or burdened by adult responsibilities, however learning how to make lunch, being prepared for school in the morning, and cleaning tasks around the house are not too much. If a child can do something for themselves they should. A couple of hints for families.
Have kids carry their own belongings and keep track of their own possessions. Label coats and backpacks with their name so if they “goof” it can be rectified.
Teach children that if they borrow something it needs to be in the same (Or better) condition they received it in. This goes for toys, books etc.
Be willing to not have things be perfect as children learn new skills.
Having an adult come behind and “fix it” is very discouraging for kids.
Raising kids is hard work and sometimes it feels like it is just easier “to do it myself”. Help your kids build confidence and self esteem through meaningful tasks that will serve them well into adulthood.
Thanks,
Michelle Fayette
mfayette@rochester.wednet.edu
360-858-1825
